A few days ago, my boyfriend and I were in the car on our way to get him some soccer stuff. We were driving down Warren road, and saw a bit of a commotion ahead. I had thought maybe there was an accident on the overpass. There was only one cop car, but two other cars sitting their. Accident? Not quite. There were four grown men crying, like bawling their eyes out. They were standing on the left side of the overpass, and on the right was another empty car. I looked down onto I-275, and traffic was at a dead stop. It came to such a quick stop, that their were cars swurved out of the way on to the shoulder, and ino the grass and everything. People were backed up onto the entrance ramp.
So what really happened. At 6:24pm on April 22, 2009 a man took his life. Canton, MI off of the Warren Road overpass onto I-275 southbound lane. The man was approached by a cop who was just their to help him decide not to jump. The cops efforts were denied, and the man jumped anyway. According to the news article, their were multiple phone calls to 911 saying their is a guy just on the bridge. We had driven past the scene at 6:27pm. I do recall looking at the clock and thinking this just happened. But I didn't think we were that close. I am rather glad I didn't see the scene becuase I would be terrified. That isn't something I want to see in my entire life. Earlier that day, Scott and I had watched the movie "Yes Man", you know, the one with Jim Carrey. Well in that movie, Jim Carrey bust out in the song "Jumper" by Third Eye Blind when a man wants to take his life by jumping off a building, and he talks, well sings the guy into staying alive. If I were to have seen the guy on the ledge, as I drove by, I would have stopped and turned the radio up and start to sing that song. I have it on CD and listen to it quite often, because it's one of my favorite songs. It's Track 15 on CD 5 in my car. Here are the lyrics to the song, if you don't know it:
I wish you would step back from that ledge my friend
You could cut ties with all the lies that youve been living in
And if you do not want to see me again I would understand
I would understand
The angry boy a bit too insane
Icing over a secret pain
You know you dont belong
Youre the first to fight
Youre way too loud
Youre the flash of light on a burial shroud
I know somethings wrong
Well everyone I know has got a reason
To say put the past away
I wish you would step back from that ledge my friend
You could cut ties with all the lies that youve been living in
And if you do not want to see me again I would understand
I would understand
Well hes on the table and hes gone to code
And I do not think anyone knows
What theyre doing here
And your friends have left you
Youve been dismissed
I never thought it would come to this
And i, I want you to know
Everyones got to face down the demons
Maybe today
You could put the past away
I wish you would step back from that ledge my friend
You could cut ties with all the lies that youve been living in
And if you do not want to see me again I would understand
I would understand
I would understand
I would understand
I would understand
I would understand
Understand
Yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah
Can you put the past away
I wish you would step back from that ledge my friend
I would understand
I wish you would step back from that ledge my friend
I would understand
I wish you would step back from that ledge my friend
And I would understand
I wish you would step back from that ledge my friend
I would understand
I wish you would step back from that ledge my friend
I would understand
It's such a good song, and every time I frustrated about my past, or about my parents, or my life in general I blare it. I listen to that song as loud as my car will let me. (not that I would do it any different for any other song, I like it loud). If you ever are in doubt and don't like your life, Just remeber some of these lyrics; "You could put hte past away" or "Everyone has to face down the demons". NOthing is worse than taking your own life. There is never a "good enough" reason to take your life, you are much more valuable than you're giving yourself credit. All - in -All it was just a tough scene for me to even just drive past.
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Friday, April 24, 2009
Nobody wins when everybody's losing.
Hey everyone. It's like 7:45am and I'm up. Not sure why, but I am. I don't have anything planned for the day except look for a job and soccer this afternoon. Two things that are pretty much daily activities for me. Just that the job hunt isn't going that great. Thank you Michigan's economy, I love you too.
There's a new song out, well, new to me atleast. It's called "Not Meant To Be" by Theory of a Deadman. It has a few key lines in it, and although it's supposed to be about a relationship, I feel that it can be a life song too. At least about my life I can relate it. One of the key lines is the very first line in the song..."It's never enough to say I'm sorry / It's never enough to say I care" I know I'm not perfect, by any means. I screw up a lot, but hey I'm only 18. Mistakes are supposed to help you learn and make you a better person right? And it's not like they're mistakes that are getting me in trouble with the law or anything like that. I screwed up and didn't pay close enough attention to my bank account, and I overdrafted. At a bank when you overdraft, they for some reason think that you have the money to pay it back, and therefore the charge you extra every day you don't pay it back. National City tend to charge you $8 a day. The worst part about it... you don't even get a notice until 10 days after the fact. Now you're about $80 in the hole. I had a long discussion with my parents saying, ifyou pay off the $80 it will be easier for me to pay it back to you. My mom simply agreed, and said she would go to the bank after work that day. (It convienently was the one day of the week that the bank was open after 5pm). Well, what really happened, was that I went to do my daily activities and carried out my plans that I had for the day. I got home around 8pm and was eating dinner when I remembered about the whole bank issue. Whelp, low and behold my mom forgot. She didn't go pay it. Matter of fact, it took her over two weeks to pay it. It was over $200 when I dragged her in their to pay it. It's not her looking bad, its me. I know it's my fault still, but if you say you're goin to do something DO IT. I now owe my parents over $200 because my mom just didn't go to the bank and take care of it right away. Because of this amount, my parents keep tabs on EVERYTHING they do for me. If they treat me and my boyfriend out for a dinner or a breakfast, it goes on a tab. If they give me a bit of gas money, it goes on that tab. Not to mention car insurance payments, and cell phone bills. I thought for sure my parents would cut me some slack. I say Sorry, but and I really mean it, but my mom doesn't accept the word sorry. She really doesn't. She doesn't think I care, or mean it. Really I do... I care a lot about my actions.
Another lines goes like this; "Nobody wins when everyone's losing". I play soccer. I play on a co-ed adult team. It has its really fun times, but lately it's just been a pain in the ass. You go, expecting your team to be pumped and ready to go. Why else show up right? No, it rarely worked that way for this team. We showed up, people already expected to lose. Yeah, we were the farthest from the best. Nothing is wrong with that. I don't mind losing the game, but I can't stand being around losing attitudes. You'll never win at anything if you don't have the confidience in what you're doing. I did horrible in highschool, up until the end of my junior year and all of my senior year. I didn't think I could do it, and I really didn't think it mattered. I was told for the past 8 years or so that I wasn't college material, so I didn't believe in myself, and figured I would just join the Air Force by enlisting instead of going through college first. Why all of a sudden did it change? Well after applying for the airforce, and taking thas ASVAB, I was declined. Not just once, but twice. I have an eye condition that doesn't really like me, and the Air Force really doesn't like when your eyes are messed up. My recruiter fought for me as best he could, but it didn't cut it either. I had the most dreadful phone call of my life, twice. To have to hear the fact that the United States Military didn't want you because of something you can't prevent. Something that is controlled by medicine. I got my grades on track after that, knowing that I failed somewhere along the line of school. I was a happier person, looked at school as a better place and no longer as a prison. (It still reminded me of a prison though, just by how it looked). Haha. I had a better life, up until graduation that is.
The third line that really gets me is; "It's like one step forward and two steps back / No matter what I do you're always mad". This one goes to my parents. My mom yelled and yelled about me and a job. First off, when I was in school and had a job she hated the fact that I was working all the time, and eventually made me quit. Since I lived in her household I had to oblige by her rules. She was complaining again in teh second semester of my Senior year of school, and I knew I had to get a job for the summer. So I applied to Cedar Point. Low and behold, I got a job. She didn't believe me. I had to have my employer call her to confirm it with her, and then when she did believe me she wasn't happy about it. "That's not a real job". Well what is a real job?! Something with 40 hours a week right? Yes, but also in my moms book it must include benefits. Well you know what, at 18, good luck finding that job. I went and worked at Cedar Point anyway, and no I wouldn't go back. I have my reasons, but if you want to work their, I wouldn't tell you to go, but at the same time I wouldn't tell you not to. It was a great experience, but everyone takes things different ways. Try it if you would like. After I worked their, and came home, I had to get a new job. It took me nearly 5 months to find a job. It was a full time job, but again didn't offfer insurance. On the other hand though, my mom loved this job. I'm not sure why, but she did. I had told her that I wanted to apply to be a camp counselor this summer for the parks and rec program. It too was a full time job, and paid a bit more than what I was getting paid in my office job. My mom had said "If you quit a full time job for a Summer job you will no longer live here". The application was available for one day, and that was the next day (saturday). I didn't do the application, because I knew I'd get the job, becuase my neighbor said I would if I applied. (he's in charge of it). I wasn't in work Monday, had it off, but that Tuesday I got laid off. Of course right? Just because I didn't fill out the application. If I just would have filled out the application, even against my moms wishes.
There's a new song out, well, new to me atleast. It's called "Not Meant To Be" by Theory of a Deadman. It has a few key lines in it, and although it's supposed to be about a relationship, I feel that it can be a life song too. At least about my life I can relate it. One of the key lines is the very first line in the song..."It's never enough to say I'm sorry / It's never enough to say I care" I know I'm not perfect, by any means. I screw up a lot, but hey I'm only 18. Mistakes are supposed to help you learn and make you a better person right? And it's not like they're mistakes that are getting me in trouble with the law or anything like that. I screwed up and didn't pay close enough attention to my bank account, and I overdrafted. At a bank when you overdraft, they for some reason think that you have the money to pay it back, and therefore the charge you extra every day you don't pay it back. National City tend to charge you $8 a day. The worst part about it... you don't even get a notice until 10 days after the fact. Now you're about $80 in the hole. I had a long discussion with my parents saying, ifyou pay off the $80 it will be easier for me to pay it back to you. My mom simply agreed, and said she would go to the bank after work that day. (It convienently was the one day of the week that the bank was open after 5pm). Well, what really happened, was that I went to do my daily activities and carried out my plans that I had for the day. I got home around 8pm and was eating dinner when I remembered about the whole bank issue. Whelp, low and behold my mom forgot. She didn't go pay it. Matter of fact, it took her over two weeks to pay it. It was over $200 when I dragged her in their to pay it. It's not her looking bad, its me. I know it's my fault still, but if you say you're goin to do something DO IT. I now owe my parents over $200 because my mom just didn't go to the bank and take care of it right away. Because of this amount, my parents keep tabs on EVERYTHING they do for me. If they treat me and my boyfriend out for a dinner or a breakfast, it goes on a tab. If they give me a bit of gas money, it goes on that tab. Not to mention car insurance payments, and cell phone bills. I thought for sure my parents would cut me some slack. I say Sorry, but and I really mean it, but my mom doesn't accept the word sorry. She really doesn't. She doesn't think I care, or mean it. Really I do... I care a lot about my actions.
Another lines goes like this; "Nobody wins when everyone's losing". I play soccer. I play on a co-ed adult team. It has its really fun times, but lately it's just been a pain in the ass. You go, expecting your team to be pumped and ready to go. Why else show up right? No, it rarely worked that way for this team. We showed up, people already expected to lose. Yeah, we were the farthest from the best. Nothing is wrong with that. I don't mind losing the game, but I can't stand being around losing attitudes. You'll never win at anything if you don't have the confidience in what you're doing. I did horrible in highschool, up until the end of my junior year and all of my senior year. I didn't think I could do it, and I really didn't think it mattered. I was told for the past 8 years or so that I wasn't college material, so I didn't believe in myself, and figured I would just join the Air Force by enlisting instead of going through college first. Why all of a sudden did it change? Well after applying for the airforce, and taking thas ASVAB, I was declined. Not just once, but twice. I have an eye condition that doesn't really like me, and the Air Force really doesn't like when your eyes are messed up. My recruiter fought for me as best he could, but it didn't cut it either. I had the most dreadful phone call of my life, twice. To have to hear the fact that the United States Military didn't want you because of something you can't prevent. Something that is controlled by medicine. I got my grades on track after that, knowing that I failed somewhere along the line of school. I was a happier person, looked at school as a better place and no longer as a prison. (It still reminded me of a prison though, just by how it looked). Haha. I had a better life, up until graduation that is.
The third line that really gets me is; "It's like one step forward and two steps back / No matter what I do you're always mad". This one goes to my parents. My mom yelled and yelled about me and a job. First off, when I was in school and had a job she hated the fact that I was working all the time, and eventually made me quit. Since I lived in her household I had to oblige by her rules. She was complaining again in teh second semester of my Senior year of school, and I knew I had to get a job for the summer. So I applied to Cedar Point. Low and behold, I got a job. She didn't believe me. I had to have my employer call her to confirm it with her, and then when she did believe me she wasn't happy about it. "That's not a real job". Well what is a real job?! Something with 40 hours a week right? Yes, but also in my moms book it must include benefits. Well you know what, at 18, good luck finding that job. I went and worked at Cedar Point anyway, and no I wouldn't go back. I have my reasons, but if you want to work their, I wouldn't tell you to go, but at the same time I wouldn't tell you not to. It was a great experience, but everyone takes things different ways. Try it if you would like. After I worked their, and came home, I had to get a new job. It took me nearly 5 months to find a job. It was a full time job, but again didn't offfer insurance. On the other hand though, my mom loved this job. I'm not sure why, but she did. I had told her that I wanted to apply to be a camp counselor this summer for the parks and rec program. It too was a full time job, and paid a bit more than what I was getting paid in my office job. My mom had said "If you quit a full time job for a Summer job you will no longer live here". The application was available for one day, and that was the next day (saturday). I didn't do the application, because I knew I'd get the job, becuase my neighbor said I would if I applied. (he's in charge of it). I wasn't in work Monday, had it off, but that Tuesday I got laid off. Of course right? Just because I didn't fill out the application. If I just would have filled out the application, even against my moms wishes.
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